Foreplay ideas for couples

Turn off the main light and leave one lamp glowing behind the bed. Warm a little body lotion between your palms first, then lay her face down and start a slow massage from her shoulder blades, pressing with the heels of your hands in long strokes down to her lower back. Keep the same unhurried rhythm for the first five minutes, then let the strokes get deeper and wider, thumbs circling the two dips above her hips, palms sliding out over her sides until your fingers just graze the curve of her breasts and return. End with your whole hand resting flat on her lower back, pressing warmth into her while your other hand traces the line of her spine upward one vertebra at a time.

Take a silk scarf or smooth shirt and let it pool over her stomach, then drag it in slow circles around her navel and down to the line of her hip bones. Swap the fabric for your fingertips, then for your nails barely scratching, then back to silk. Keep her guessing which is coming by changing every twenty seconds or so, and let the fabric trail lower than your hands ever go.

Ask him what he wants touched first, and do exactly that, but at a third of the speed he expects. Use a silk scarf or a soft belt from the closet dragged over his stomach and inner thighs, back and forth, while your other hand stays flat and still on his chest. When his hips start to lift, hold his gaze and do not look away, keeping the silk moving in the same lazy rhythm.

Notice how his breathing changes the second your nails graze the back of his neck, and stay right there. Sit behind him on the bed, his back against your chest, and drag your fingertips in slow circles from his nape down to his shoulder blades. Lean in and whisper close to his ear: 'I love how your shoulders tense when I touch you here.' Keep the circles slow, letting your lips brush the skin just under his ear between words.